Pierced Eyebrow Punctures Parental Peace -
Imagine, for the sake of argument, that on the eve of her 18th birthday, a girl
you know and admire - a girl whose health and happiness are among your primary
concerns – tosses out the possibility of getting her eyebrow pierced.
Attention in School: Some Advice - This is a
great “how to” article specifically written to address concerns of parents who
suspect that their child might have an attention problem, but which also
contains a wealth of great parenting advice for all parents and all kids. For
example, here you will find specific examples of ways to get answers to the
question, “What did you do in school today?” beyond the usual “nothing” and
Dr. Mel Levine:
How to Prep Your Child to Become An Adult
- In his book ‘Ready or Not, Here Life Comes,’ pediatrician and author
Dr. Mel Levine addresses why some kids make a successful transition into
adulthood while others do not. "Most parents wonder if their child will be
prepared to tackle adulthood when they grow up. Now, after decades of observing
children grow into young adults, nationally known pediatrician and author Dr.
Mel Levine addresses why some youngsters make a successful transition into
adulthood while others do not.”
The One-size-fits-all Way Girls Are Taught Explains Their Differences With Boys
- A distinguished Harvard professor suggests women may be innately less
capable of scholarship at the highest levels and asserts that the pursuit of an
academic career will cause a woman's body to shunt blood away from the uterus
toward the brain, rendering that woman "irritable and infertile." A flurry of
press coverage ensues.
Teaching What Matters
- Wouldn't the world be a better place if our kids hung on our every
word? If they worshiped our wisdom and lived to do everything we told them to
do? Probably not, but it's easy to feel that way.
About Me? - Remember, as I’m sure you’ve
already heard, that you’re no good to anyone else if you don’t take care of
yourself. Your child may be the book, but you are the first chapter.
Listening to Your Kids
- How are you listening to your kids? If you're one of those rare
"born listeners" who can get almost anyone to open up, you're lucky. If you're
like the rest of us, you can probably improve your listening skills.
Maybe you're frustrated that your kids don't give you a chance to listen. Do you
get a one-word response when you ask how the day went at school? "Fine." And
don't your instincts often tell you that "fine" is a wildly inaccurate
description of the day?
10 Tips to Prepare for a
Parent-Teacher Conference - Parent-teacher
conferences are designed for both the parent and the teacher to learn things
about the children in question. Preparation is key if you really want to utilize
your time with your child’s teacher, says Joan Firestone, director of early
childhood for Oakland Schools. Here are 10 tips on how to prepare for a better
Reducing Special Needs Parent
Stress - A lot of parents who have kids with
special needs get a free helping of stress every day. With extra nuts -- and
sprinkles. If this is you, how do you start an anti-stress diet? Start small.
Take a break. Oh yeah, right. When are you going to find the time?
Dads Take a Role in Their Kids' Schools - Armed
with a telephone, Jay Kaliski managed to start a small revolution at
Birmingham's Covington 3-8 School five years ago. "Ways for parents to support
the school were already there. I could tell dads wanted to participate, but
didn't know how," he said. So with a list of parents' names and phone numbers,
Kaliski called all 450 households to invite fathers to help create a support and
fund-raising group composed solely of men.
Test your teens for drug abuse in the privacy of your own home. Test kits
include those for marijuana, cocaine, opiates and methamphetamines
(including Ecstasy). These are the same kits offered by police departments
and school districts nationwide.
Website: notMYkid -
An organization dedicated to raising awareness about the
most prevalent youth and adolescent mental and behavioral health issues.
Disorders, ADD /
and Many Other Health
Peaceful Parents, Peaceful Kids -
Practical Ways to Create a Calm and Happy Home. What can you do to help your
children cope with stress? How can you give them the skills for talking over
problems, instead of fighting about them? Where can you find time to help your
kids be less volatile, more cooperative, and happier? In Peaceful Parents,
Peaceful Kids, Naomi Drew brings the same revolutionary action plan she
developed for the classroom to parents everywhere. Illustrated by concrete
situations, hands-on examples, and testimonials from real-life parents. [$14.00
from The Peace Company]
Program Profile: Woodley Hills
Elementary School Makes the Most of All Resources -
Parents and community members are an important part of the mix at
Woodley Hills Elementary School. Located in Alexandria, Virginia, Woodley Hills
is a culturally diverse school where more than 50 percent of the students are
eligible for free or reduced-price lunches.
Weekly Time Focusing on Family Brings
Hard-to-Reach Parents to School - Today’s busy
lifestyles can make getting even some of the most highly educated parents
involved with their children’s education a challenge. The problems are
compounded when parents lack formal education and confidence that they have the
knowledge and skills to help their child.
Your Kids Need You - Our instincts tell us that
individuals who live in loving families that spend time together make for better
individuals – but how many of us actually live like we believe it?
Scholarship Fund - Founded in 1998, the Children's Scholarship Fund
provides partial tuition assistance for low-income families to send their
children to private schools. More than 62,000 children have benefited from
scholarships across the United States as part of our mission to open the doors
of educational opportunity to families. Eligible families are required to
demonstrate their financial need as measured by standards similar to the Federal
school lunch program, which takes into account family size. The Fund focuses on
elementary education because the earlier a child receives sound schooling, the
better. Scholarships are awarded to all eligible children in a family to attend
the school or schools of their choice.
Little League Faces Behavior Code - Starting next season, Little League
players, coaches and parents in Lake in the Hills may have to promise, in
writing, not to yell at, boo or argue with umpires.
How Do We Keep Him Safe?
- Many things may run through a parent’s mind after he or she reads
about certain tragedies. In the past month, you may have heard of three people
with autism who died after wandering from their homes. One died as the result of
being hit by an automobile; two drowned within a short distance of home. How do
we keep Andrew, our 3 1/2-year-old son, safe? How does anyone keep his or her
What's to Blame
For The Rise in ADHD? - A study published in the journal Pediatrics in
April suggests TV viewing in very young children contributes to attention
problems later in life. “The study revealed that each hour of television watched
per day at ages 1 through 3 increases the risk of attention problems by almost
10 percent at age 7,” said Dr. Cristakis, lead author. Jane Healy, an education
psychologist in Vail, Colorado, and author of "Your Child’s Growing Mind: Brain
Development and Learning from Birth to Adolescence," believes common programming
tactics designed to capture attention can have a deleterious affect on brain
Teens Maintain a Positive Outlook - Today's
teens: They don't like the idea of a military draft, they're stressed out about
grades and they regard their parents as practically awesome. Those were among
key findings unveiled Tuesday.
Notes and Memory - I’ve never been diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome or
Attention Deficit Disorder, as my son has. But, as my wife will attest, I
certainly have some of the tendencies of both. Okay, more than some.
Educators Tackle Classroom Discipline - Schools
have a grip on the most serious discipline problems like drugs and guns, what
with police officers on many campuses and nearly universal zero-tolerance
policies. What's harder to handle are the minor distractions in class--the
pencil tappers, hair pullers, loudmouths and latecomers, according to a report
released in May just as most schools were letting out for the summer.
Smart-mouthed kids are quick to remind teachers that their parents can sue them.
The Best Teacher Ever
- Think about the best teacher you ever had. It’s an uncommon pleasure
to remember someone who believed in you before you were sure you were worth
Planning is The Key To Success -
What do you want your child to achieve this year? What are your
long-range goals for your child? What do you want your child to be
able to do when he or she leaves the public school system? What
steps do you need to take to help your child meet these goals?
What's A Dad Worth?
- I heard a discussion about a dad's worth the other day as I was
radio channel surfing in my car. Two talk show hosts were hotly debating some
comments made by actress Nicole Kidman. The topic: does a rich single mom have
anything to complain about? The female host said that even a famous, wealthy
single mom can have it tough raising kids. The macho male host wasn't buying it.
"Come on, she's got jillions of dollars! She can buy anything she needs."
Stress Leaves Mark on Kids - Kids have it rough these days. Their
parents' financial troubles are their troubles. Their parents' marital woes are
their woes. And it's depressing them. The National Institute of Mental Health
recently reported 2.5 percent of children up to age 12 suffer from depression.
Region experts said our kids are depressed too, though no number of local
children suffering from depression is available.
Violent Marriages May Make Violent Children - Children of violent
marriages may be more than twice as likely to set fires intentionally or be
cruel to animals than those from nonviolent homes, according to new research.
The study shows that problems in the family, especially violent behavior among
father figures, significantly increase the risk of fire setting and animal
cruelty in children, and these behaviors set the stage for later adolescent
Fathers and Kids, a Timeless Connection - Today's dads
are more hands-on, but fathers of every generation are heroes to
Becoming Dad the
Incomparable (A Father's Day Refection) -
I was awake most of the night last night - lying in
bed thinking about being a dad. And thinking about two truths:
It's tough being a dad. It's great being a dad.
Social Skills - When's the last time you got frustrated because you told
your child not to do something, and two minutes later he or she is doing it
again? I think of this as "Teflon Shelf Syndrome." If you consider the brain as
a storehouse with shelves, some kids seem to have some shelves that are coated
with Teflon - and are tilted so things slide off easily. So...maybe it's not
your son's fault that his finger strays to his nostril. It's not your daughter's
fault she doesn't make eye contact when you speak to her. Maybe it’s the way
their brains work.
Parents Don't See Obesity in Kids:
Heavy Children Seen
as 'About Right' - A study
released Friday by the American Diabetes Association found that
most parents don't recognize obesity in their children. The
study was one of two released at the association's 64th annual
meeting in Orlando. Although that study looked at British
children, at least one Michigan pediatrician said the same is
true in the United States.
Feel Rejected - The breakdown
in marriage over the last 50 years carries a cost: America has
evolved from being a culture of belonging to being a culture of
rejection, and its children are paying the price. Parents
belonging to each other. That's what children need more than
anything else this nation can give them.
The Daily Parent:
Special Focus on Fatherhood -
Much has been written about mothers and raising children, but
what about fathers? Men feel the conflict between what it takes
to build good relationships with their children, and how to
handle the pressures of the workplace as much as women.
When Children Bite - You turn around to pick up a few
stray toys - and it happens. Erin lets out a piercing scream.
You rush over and there's the tell-tale sign - red teeth marks
on Erin's arm. Biting is one of the most difficult behaviors to
deal with in young children. Biting is very similar to hitting,
but it is much more dangerous. Young children have more power in
their jaw muscles than in their arms, so the damage is more
severe. And it can happen in an instant, even when you are
standing right there!
Too Close For Comfort
- For all their virtues, small towns are hard on misfits. The social
forces that push misfit boys over the edge are still alive in isolated
communities where most school shootings occur.
National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy
- The goal of the National Campaign to Prevent Teen
Pregnancy is to reduce the rate of teen pregnancy by one-third
between 1996 and 2005.
Making the List: Understanding, Selecting, and
Replicating Effective Teen Pregnancy Prevention Programs
- A Putting What Works to Work publication, Making
the List helps those working with young people to navigate
lists of effective teen pregnancy prevention programs and make
informed decisions about how to select the best one(s) for a
particular community and population.
Order a print copy.
Don’t Cry: So What’s a Man To Do? - A common stereotype is that
men bury and sometimes deny their emotions. On the other hand, I have
many experiences as a psychologist and as a father and many sources
which tell me quite the contrary. My own story and those of the men
who seek my counsel have to do with being the father of a child with a
disability or special healthcare needs. These extraordinary
experiences are often a catalyst that defies the stereotype.
Teaching Social Skills "Frontwards"
- To give parents the benefit of the doubt, we don't use
poor teaching tools on purpose. We do what seems obvious at the time.
But, looking back, I'm sort of amazed that I kept trying the same
thing for so long when it wasn't getting results.
Your Child Learns In Two Languages: A Parent's Guide
- A parent's guide for improving educational opportunities for
children acquiring English as a second language.
Available in PDF format in English, Spanish, Vietnamese,
Chinese and Haitian Creole.
Young Children Links TV to Attention Deficits - Young children who watch
television face an increased risk of attention deficit problems by school age, a
study has found, suggesting that TV might over-stimulate and permanently
"rewire" the developing brain. For every hour of TV watched daily, two groups of
children - ages 1 and 3 - faced a 10 percent increased risk of having attention
problems at age 7.
Book Challenges Ideas About
Kids, Divorce - Joshua Coleman may not think of
himself as a myth exploder, but the he is challenging some of our society's most
accepted ideas. Coleman, a psychologist who has spent his professional career
counseling couples, has come up with some theories that challenge current
assumptions about the effects of divorce on children.
Lax Discipline Makes For Spoiled
Kids? - You've seen them. Terrorist toddlers
screaming at the supermarket. Kamikaze kindergartners with anger issues on the
playground. Surly adolescents with no respect for anyone over 18. And you've
wondered: Have kids always been this way and I'm just getting crankier? Or are
today's parents spineless saps producing an inordinate number of brats? Talk to
parenting experts, school principals and teachers and you'll get an earful.
Putting the "Parents" in
Parent-Teacher Conferences - According to the
National PTA, frequent communication between home and school is the key to
academic success. Providing opportunities for parent-teacher conferences,
encouraging parent participation in school events, and sending notes or e-mail
messages home helps foster good relationships that support children's learning.
Preventing Conduct Problems in Head Start Children: Strengthening
Parenting Competencies by Carolyn Webster-Stratton, Parenting
Clinic, School of Nursing, University of Washington
Terrible Twos and Hypothesis Testing - The “terrible twos” can
be a very difficult time for parents and caregivers. Children at this
age not only do things adults don’t want them to do, but also do
things because their caregivers don’t want them to.
Planning For a Disabled Child's
Future - Parents make provisions for the years
after their own passing.
How to Build Your Child's Confidence
Vitamin D Deficiency in Teens Called
Epidemic - In some ways, Leon Jordan is a
pretty typical teenager -- he doesn't get much outdoor exercise, prefers movies
and video games, and won't drink milk. Those habits contributed to a vitamin D
deficiency that has helped weaken the 18-year-old's bones and left him prone to
Refrigerator Magnets are Tool For
Learning - Displaying kids' work is one way to
boost performance. Get yourself a magnet - lots of them. The school year is
about to begin, and I am guaranteeing a sure-fired strategy for success.
What Black Parents Must do
now ... - As the black parent of a teenager, I
share the recently publicized pain of some black high school parents in Shaker
Heights, an affluent suburb of Cleveland.
Common Sense Parenting -
Features a common sense skill of the week, family spotlight,
parenting questions and answers, and more.
National PTA Common
Sense - Whether you're a parent, a caregiver, a PTA or
community leader, Common Sense gives you effective and
easy-to-use ideas and materials. We encourage you to explore and
make use of the many resources offered on this Web site.
Everything you do can make a real difference in the lives of
Girls & Boys Town
Parenting Tips - Information on Staying Calm, Reaching Goals
with Charts and Contracts, Making Friends, Bullies, Dealing with
Children's Friends, Conversation Skills and Kids Home Alone.
we stigmatizing our own children? - "If we, as parents, summarize or
characterize our children by their disabilities, are we not essentially agreeing
with those who would see our children in terms of their challenges or problems
instead of seeing the child's strengths and talents and character?"
Chick Moorman's 10 Best and 10 Worst Things To Say To Children
9 Ways to Boost
Your Child's Positive Attitude Before the Bus Comes -
These no-nonsense pointers will
help you remove a large portion of last-minute stress that comes
along with every weekday morning.
How to Know when Your Child
Needs Residential Treatment - Many of us are coping with kids
who exhibit challenging behaviors. Despite the headaches of parenting,
we as parents want to do everything that we possibly can to help our
child. One of the most difficult and heartbreaking decisions a family
can make is to decide that residential treatment is needed for their
& Worst Things You Can Say to Kids About War -
Chick Moorman outlines effective and ineffective strategies for
communicating with children about war and terrorism. The five best? 1)
"What have you been hearing about the war?" 2) "You can watch TV for only
30 minutes, and I want to be present." 3) "What do you suppose it looks
like from the other side?" 4) "I don't know what will happen, but I know
we'll be able to handle it." 5) "I understand how you could feel that
way." The Five Worst: 1) "God is on our side." 2) "We are right and they
are wrong." 3) "There is nothing you can do." 4) "You don't know what
you're talking about." 5) "There is nothing to worry about."
1st Year -
The 2nd and 3rd
Parent to Parent? Parent to Parent programs provide
emotional and informational support to parents of children who
have special needs. To provide this support, trained and
experienced veteran parents are carefully matched in 1-1
relationships with parents who are newly referred to the
program. Because the veteran parent has shared the experience of
disability in the family, the veteran parent is often able to
provide a unique form of support that only another parent who
has "been there" can. To learn more
about this program visit:
Family Issues (PDF; 15 pages) - Learn how to address your
child’s special needs while nurturing your marriage and
enlisting help from other family members.
The Institutes For The
Achievement of Human Potential:
www.iahp.org - Serving children by teaching parents how
to enhance the development of their children based upon proven
brain research and documented results with both well and
The Beach Center on Disability has conducted research for and
with families on family and policy issues related to disability
- including research about Parent to Parent. To learn more about
the Beach Center, its research, and its products and resources,
Jungle - Free printable and reproducible charts for use
during infancy, the preschool years, kindergarten, and other
learning stages. Use the charts provided to help you get more
organized in your life and activities.
Special Families Resources
- On this site, psychologist, author, and parent Robert
Naseef, Ph.D., along with others, share insights and
experiences on family life. A variety of topics are discussed - focusing on the special
needs of families and emphasizing the role of fathers.
Associates - their mission is to improve student achievement by engaging
parents to become decision-making partners in public schools through on-site
consulting, technical support, workshops, conferences and materials.
Identifying Learning Differences in Adopted Children -
When you made the choice to adopt a child, you took a leap of
faith at least one bound beyond that taken by other parents.
And, if your child is challenged by learning or attention
problems, your parenting path may now seem strewn with “speed
bumps” caused by these overlapping issues.
Study Shows Preschool Programs That Involve Parents Can Prevent
Child Abuse - In one of
Chicago's poorest neighborhoods, a little girl with pigtails and
a denim jumper stands in front of a table and fingers the shape
of wooden letters as she fits them into a puzzle. In the next
room, her mother talks to a teacher about taking the GED and how
she can help her daughter with homework.
Parental quality at issue -
Study says kids raised by mom or dad alone have more
Safe, but sorry -
Today's kids are more secure than ever, but their parents are
more worried than ever. Are we 'protecting' our children to
Run, Jump, and Play! - After he learns to walk, your toddler
will start tackling a wide range of big-fun moves. Here are 9
ways to give those skills a boost.
Program strengthens parents -
National research has shown that PAT children demonstrate
advanced language and problem-solving skills compared with
peers. Longer-term studies show that PAT parents remain engaged
and involved with their children's progress on into their
elementary school years.
With Open Arms:
Embracing a Bright Financial Future for You and Your Child with Disabilities and Other Special Needs -
New Financial Guide for Parents of Children with
Disabilities and Other Special Needs.
Through the Looking Glass
is a non-profit agency that works with families in which a
child, parent or grandparent has a disability or medical issue.
Through the Looking Glass (TLG) is a nationally recognized
non-profit center and first National Resource Center for Parents
with Disabilities. They provide direct services, training,
materials and research concerning families in which a child,
parent or grandparent has a disability or medical issue.
group honored for San Jose school's improvement
Learn English, So They Can Help Their Children
Parents Engaged in Education Reform (PEER)
Provides opportunities for parents, parent organizations, and
professionals to learn from each other about school
Series on Child Development and Play
Say Children Suffer Due to Lack of Unstructured Fun
These Groups Work to Enhance Children's Play
Helping Your Child Series
The Heart of a Teacher:
Identity and Integrity in Teaching
Achievement - "They flocked
to meetings, meet-the-teacher nights, bake sales and
assemblies." The school was far more successful than its
geographical and socioeconomic neighbors.
Read the article "It
Takes Strength to be a Parent Instead of Your Child's Friend"
Teens, sex, and power of
Study finds strong
impact of moms on adolescent sexual activity.
Parenting Resources for the 21st Century -
Read the letter "Dear Teacher" by an anonymous parent regarding her
child with ADHD at