By Dan Coulter, Coulter Video, April 20,
2007
This week, thirty-two people died at the hands of a disturbed
student at Virginia Tech. Thirty-three people, when you also
count his suicide.
I was struck by statements from a number of people who had
responsibility for comforting the friends and family of the
victims. They said there was no one particular thing you could
say. Often you just needed to be there to listen. I think that's
wise counsel. This is a searing, unimaginable loss, felt in his
or her own way by every person in mourning. My heart goes out to
them.
What I know of this tragedy comes from media coverage. As usual
after such an event, much of the coverage I've seen tended
toward the sensational, but portions may help us understand some
useful things about what happened.
I saw an Associated Press story today by Matt Apuzzo. It quoted
former classmates of the killer, Cho Seung-Hui, describing how
Cho was bullied and teased in middle school and high school.
In the story, a classmate described an incident in high school
when Cho remained silent, looking down after an English teacher
had called on him to read aloud in class. When the teacher
threatened him with an "F" for participation, Cho began to read,
but used a strange, deep voice.
"As soon as he started reading, the whole class started laughing
and pointing and saying, 'Go back to China'," recalled a student
who'd gone to high school with Cho.
Another former classmate described students in middle school who
were "really mean" to Cho, pushing him down and making fun of
the fact that he didn't speak English well.
While this is only part of the picture, it seems clear from the
writing and videos Cho left behind that being bullied and
harassed had a terrible impact on him.
I wonder what people will take away from this.
I hope they don't start seeing everyone who is bullied as a
potential mass murderer. Something else that comes out of the
coverage is that Cho was treated for mental illness and had lost
touch with reality.
But I hope people do see the anguish that bullying and teasing
can cause. I've heard again and again from parents about
children robbed of any joy at school. Kids who just want to be
accepted and "treated like everyone else." Who suffer stomach
aches from the fear of being preyed on. Kids with tremendous
potential being made to feel like nothing.
And yes, there are some kids who bullying may push toward
violence.
If you've watched the news coverage about the Virginia Tech
tragedy, you've probably heard commentators and experts talking
about what we might do to prevent such attacks in the future.
I've heard suggestions about profiling, increased campus
security and a range of other options.
But one practical thing we can all do, is work for anti-bullying
programs that educate both students and teachers in our schools.
While such programs can help millions of students who wouldn't
harm anyone, one also might touch a life in a way that could
help avert a tragedy in the making.
In addition to mourning the lives lost at Virginia Tech, working
to enrich and preserve lives in the future is a memorial
available to us all.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR - Dan Coulter is the producer of the Intricate
Minds series of videos that help classmates understand and
accept students who have Asperger Syndrome and autism. You can
find more articles at his website at
www.coultervideo.com.
Copyright 2007 Dan Coulter All Rights Reserved. Used by
Permission.
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